Single guy dating single mother
Before long, we had our own inside jokes, a shared eye-roll at yet another lover's quarrel in a small space.
We talked about music, about high school, his experience then and mine now.
Whatever his flaws, your kids love their dad with all their heart.
But what about when your ex doesn't show up for visits or blows off child-support payments and actually makes your kids' life miserable?
I flew through the first couple of months after our separation in an adrenaline-powered blur.
But things like finding a place to live and paying for it all by myself, taking care of almost all the day-to-day parenting of two small children, and trying to find a job when I'd been out of the workforce since college terrified me.
I felt like a flake -- not a strong, capable mother who was going teach her children to succeed despite the obstacles ahead.
When I was married, we were just like all the other families: our own tiny self-sufficient universe.
"It's crucial to explain to children that family is defined by people who love us and whom we feel really close to," says M.
Even if my husband and I didn't get along, we were both still deeply invested in the minutiae of running our family.
Then one day, my best friend and co-parent was gone from my life. Okay, that was an exaggeration -- but it's how it felt at the time, and it prompted me into action.
"It's good to acknowledge your child's feelings as long as you don't add anger to your empathy," says Neuman.
You can say "I know it's hard that Dad couldn't come again this Wednesday," but leave out the "That jerk has always been irresponsible! As if this advice isn't tough enough to follow, you've also got to keep yourself from making negative comments to your friends, mother, or next-door neighbor if there's even a chance that you'll be overheard by your kid.